Volume 14.10 | October 2013

  • Gaining Control

    Self-control is the ninth fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22–23. Though it’s listed last, it’s clearly an important one. It takes a lot of self-control to manifest the other eight fruits. I recently read about the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment, conducted by Stanford University psychologists in 1972. During the experiment, a marshmallow was offered […]

  • The Laundry Basket

    A while back I read some tips on how to get along with people: Speak cheerfully. Smile. Address people by name. Be friendly and helpful. Communicate openly. Be concerned about others. Be generous with praise, encouragement, and appreciation. Be genuinely interested in the feelings of others. Avoid arguments. Be helpful. These are great tips, I […]

  • Take Me to Your Master!

    Children—and many adults, including this one—love the story of Aladdin. Adventure, magical artifacts, good versus evil, and the ultimate success story of a beggar boy being transformed into a prince by an awesome genie. There’s something appealing about that easy success. Instead of having to discipline himself and work hard to succeed, Aladdin uses magic. […]

  • Self-Control—The Liberating Fruit

    The secret to building self-control is to yield our lives to God and let His Holy Spirit guide our thoughts, our actions and our life. “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world,” Paul advises, “but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn […]

  • The Positive Mindset

    During a recent course I took on counseling, my classmates and I were exploring the topic of negative self-talk, and it quickly became obvious this bad habit had served as a damper to success, suffocated great ideas right at the start, and influenced reactions and perceptions about situations in each of our lives. Negativity, ranging […]

  • Time Management Tips

    When my boss agreed to let me start working from home, I was excited about the prospect and confident that I could do an even better job than working at the office, but he responded with a knowing smile, “Just remember, I may call sometimes just to see if you’re at your desk. Don’t let […]

  • Sticking to Our Tasks

    We need patience to accomplish our goals in life. Even when our situation is not ideal, it is important to persevere and make the most of what we have. Most of us experience times when we are frustrated with our jobs or feel so unappreciated that we want to quit. However, before making a rash […]

  • Governing yourself

    A person without self-control is like a breached city, one with no walls.—Proverbs 25:28 CEB The Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.—2 Timothy 1:7 NIV Self-control is the ability to keep cool while someone is making it hot for you.—Unknown If you would learn self-mastery, […]

  • True Quietness

    Some time ago, I found myself facing a situation that was beyond my ability to resolve. Alone in the stillness of the night, I racked my brain for a solution and finally sent up a prayer for direction. As I lay on my bed, waiting to hear an answer, there was only silence. My patience […]

  • Transformed

    I once attended a meeting where a 16-year-old boy sang several gospel songs, and as he sang, his face shone with joy. I learned later that he had grown up in a horrible home environment. From the age of 12, he had been forced to steal to support his family, and within a year, he […]

  • Traffic Lights

    No city in the developed world could function without traffic lights. They are not physical barriers, but drivers choose to exercise self-control, and for the most part, follow their instructions: stopping for red, exercising caution for amber (yellow), going for green. The motorist who ignores the red light does so at the peril of his […]

  • The Jesus Advantage

    Some people naturally have a great deal of willpower or self-control, but that’s not typical. If you have a hard time sticking to a resolution, developing a consistent routine, or building a new habit, I have good news for you: With Me in your life, you have a special advantage—the Jesus advantage. My Spirit can […]